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In each of my pregnancies, my husband and I talked to our babies. We wanted our children to get to know us in utero. We didn’t do this all the time, we actually had to be intentional with it. However, the more we talked to our babies, the more natural it became.

Now I have two children. One is almost 7-years-old and the other is 3 1/2. They are never short of words. Princesses, Webkinz, Frozen, Golden Retrievers… you name it and I get to hear about it; all – day – long. Sometimes I don’t give those conversations my complete and undivided attention but lately I have thought about what I say (and what I don’t say enough of).

As I considered these exchanges, I began to think about the things that we, as parents, could say more often to our kids.

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5 Things You Should Say To Your Kids… Often


What do you think?

These four small words have a huge potential to unleash a wealth of thoughts, wisdom, and speculation. Children have such amazing insights and often we, as adults, don’t even contemplate their perspective on matters. Adults often consider themselves to be the experts and teachers, yet we can learn a lot from the youngest members of our society.

Tell me more.

These three words let your children know that they have your attention and that you want to hear more from them. Everyone wants to be heard, this is especially true of our children.

You showed such (insert positive attribute here).

Notice I didn’t give a label here. I have issues with “labeling” children and I hate that I do it with my own (i.e. You’re so clever). This sort of thing is fluff and is meaningless to children. However, by telling your children; “You showed such creativity when you built that fort” or “You showed such determination in that game”, you are labeling a positive attribute. This is beneficial for three reasons:

  1. You are helping your children to see and appreciate positive characteristics.
  2. You are giving your children credit where credit is due.
  3. You are helping your children build a positive sense of self-worth.

Would you like to play with me?

Think of how many times your children have asked you to play with them. Now think about how many times you’ve asked them to play with you. When you invite someone to spend time with you, that action alone tells them how much you enjoy their company. What a wonderful way to help your children feel cherished!

If you’re not sure how to engage in play with your children, then check out this post HERE.

I love you.

Three simple words. So easy to say, yet not said nearly enough. Often when I say “I love you” to my children, I get one of two responses:

  1. Thank you
  2. Okay

It doesn’t matter what their response is; what matters is that I let them know how much I love them.

I was recently thinking about the conversations I have with my children and I began to think about the things that we, as parents, should say to our kids. Here is a list of 5 things you should say to your children... daily.

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Just like when I was pregnant, these conversations and exchanges had to be intentional at first but with time they have become a lot more natural.

Which of these 5 things do you regularly say to your children? Is there anything you would add to this list of things we should say more often to our kids?




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Jennifer Bly
Jennifer Bly
Author of My Kitchen, My Classroom: An Introduction to Homeschool, creator of The Deliberate Mom, Deliberate Homeschooling and regular contributor to The Huffington Post. Jennifer writes about parenting, her faith, and life with her husband and two girls. Jennifer has a Bachelor of Applied Human Service Administration Degree with a specialization in Early Learning in Child Care.
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