Motherhood brings so many joys. From the first smile to the first word to the first steps… we are hooked. Life is forever changed once we have children.
However, take a moment to consider something… how often do you play with your children? When was the last time you played with your child? I’m not talking about handing your daughter a lump of play dough while you cook supper or the random artillery of questions you fire mindlessly at your son while flipping through a magazine. I’m talking about all-out, completely engaged play.
Play is how children explore and make sense of their world. As adults in our children’s lives, we miss out on beautiful learning opportunities if we do not engage in play with our children. Forgot how to play? Here are some tips on how to play with your children.
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Whether your child is having a tea party and handing it out or pretending to be a doctor, follow their direction. If they want you to eat and drink at their party, then do so. If they want you to be the nurse in their clinic, then play the role.
Observe their play
Be a keen observer. Watch how they interact with their dolls, how they speak while they play. Listen to the tone of their voice. Try not to correct or interfere. Sometimes, we might hear our child articulating things we ourselves have said. Although you may be uncomfortable that your child is telling his or her dolls “I’m too busy”, you are getting a wonderful opportunity to glimpse into the world as they are experiencing and interpreting it.
Extend their play
While playing with your child, you may notice that they hit a peak or a plateau. By playing with them, you may be able to extend the experience by providing extra materials. For instance, if your child consistently has tea parties, you may want to add a toy stove and plates to the space. They may deepen their play by baking cookies for the tea party.
Extending play can also be done with infants. For example, if you observe your infant lining up blocks, you can take some blocks and demonstrate how to stack them.
Focus entirely on your child
Treat play time with your child as if it’s an important business meeting. Turn off your cell phone, don’t check your e-mail, and give your child your undivided attention.
Schedule a time
It’s unrealistic to play with your child all day long. Set some time aside every day to play with your child. You can even set a time limit. You can tell your child, “Mommy is going to play with you for half an hour and then I will go make supper”. However, ensure you are engaged 100% with your child during that half hour.
Reflect on the play experience
If you have a moment, write down a few thoughts about the play experience you encountered with your child. Were there any surprises? Did you learn anything new about your child? What did you learn about yourself? What would you like to do next time? You can even document your thoughts in a reflective parenting journal like this one.
By applying a few of these tips, you will feel more comfortable playing with your children. Your efforts will build your relationship and support their exploration of the world they live in.
Now, let’s PLAY!
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Fantastic article. Thank you so much. I shared this on Facebook, and plan to point several people toward it. Again, thank you.
“Treat the play time with your child as if it’s an important business meeting.”
This is what I need to get better at. I do leave my phone in another room, but my mind never shuts off. I’m thinking “I need to make a grocery list. Did I put that load of laundry in the dryer? I should really pay some bills.”
My mind is always running at full speed. Ugh! I think the best solution is to make a plan, set a time, like you mentioned. I really need to get better at this. This time with them won’t last forever.
Thanks for sharing!
I’m delighted you enjoyed this “undiscovered” post Dee (I published it almost 4 years ago… I think it was the second post I published here on The Deliberate Mom).
Playing with children can be a challenge. As adults, so many things seem “more important”. However, there’s no better time to commit to playing with our children.
Thanks again for visiting and commenting.