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Are you wondering what husbands can do for their pregnant wives?

Being pregnant isn’t easy. There are many emotions, frustrations, pains, and complexities involved in carrying a child for nine months. Men must know this!

However, I have heard several pregnant women gripe about how their husband’s idea of supporting them throughout the pregnancy was to capitalize on their cravings.

I feel fortunate. My husband is so attentive and has done a number of things in my first pregnancy (and in this one) to help me feel supported throughout the childbearing process. So to those of you who are not as fortunate, here is a list of things that your husband can do to make the duration of your pregnancy more bearable.

Please print it out.

Stick it on the fridge.

E-mail the link to him.

Leave this posting open on the computer.

Send the message loud and clear! You need to be loved and appreciated more than ever… after all, you are carrying his offspring!

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Dear Husband / Father-To-Be,

You planted your seed and did your duty. WRONG! Now’s the time to step up and show your wife how much you care. Confused? You don’t know what she wants? Don’t worry… here are some quick tips on showing love and appreciation to your wife throughout the remainder of her pregnancy.

Sincerest regards, The Deliberate (and pregnant) Mom


What Husbands Can Do For Their Pregnant Wives

Listen.

We always need our man to listen to us, but now it’s more important than ever! Hear our woes, sympathize with our worries, and sincerely listen to what we are saying.

Help.

Oh my goodness, there’s no better time to pick up a vacuum cleaner, wash the dishes, do the laundry, or make the occasional supper! We are tired, and we need help.

If you don’t want to fall victim to the onslaught of pregnant, hormonal explosions of frustration, then make sure to help out around the house.

A side note to the ladies: compliment him GREATLY for how he helped (even if he didn’t do it the way you would do it). He’ll be more likely to volunteer to help out again.

Be at her beckoned call.

If she’s craving a grape slushie when it’s -35 outside, don’t try to talk her down from her craving. Get out there and drive around the city to find the perfect grape slushie. Trust me… these are memories in the making, and although they seem odd or frustrating now, you’ll both laugh about them years later.

Take her on a date.

Just because she’s carrying your child doesn’t mean you’re off the hook for taking your lady out on the town. Take her out to dinner, see a movie, or browse in a bookshop, and afterward, go out for tea or coffee.

Be eager.

If your wife is ecstatic about a birthing or parenting class, try your best to share in her excitement. Even if you have to fake your enthusiasm… do it! In her pregnant brain, the lack of excitement = lack of excitement about the baby and/or her.

Read up.

Speaking of being eager, purchasing a pregnancy book is a great way to show your wife that you care. Here are some books you may want to investigate:

The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads to Be

Dad’s Pregnant Too!

The Birth Partner (Revised 4th Edition)

Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads

Your Pregnancy Week by Week

Expectant Parents: Preparing Together for the Journey of Parenthood

If you want to surprise your wife, try purchasing a pregnancy journal like this one and fill it out together!

Show a little romance.

She needs to know you love her… pregnant or not! However, an extra showering of romance can help smooth over her rough days or emotional moments.

A random greeting card professing your love for her, slow dancing in the living room, a bouquet of flowers, a sappy slide show—you can do so many things to help her feel loved. Book a spa treatment for her a month or two before the baby is due, and surprise her with a spa treatment.

A manicure, pedicure, or massage can really help relieve some of her pregnancy aches and pains and help her relax. Pregnancy involves many physical and emotional stresses.

Find ways to help your wife relax.

You could prepare a bubble bath for her, give her a shoulder or foot rub, or surprise her with a magazine.

Book housecleaning services for her a month before the baby is due. While she’s out visiting, shopping, or at her baby shower, schedule a top-to-bottom professional housecleaning. Coming home to an immaculate home could make a world of difference to her.

Another great tip is to book additional housecleaning services for a couple of months after the baby’s birth.

Treat her to some great maternity clothes.

An excellent maternity wardrobe can help your wife embrace and accept her changing body. Take her to the mall and let her take all the time she wants to try on jeans and shirts. Tell her you think she’s beautiful (inside and out). Trust me, she’s feeling frumpy and far from sexy. Remind her of all the things you love and adore about her.

This is a beautiful time to be cherished and remembered forever. A few simple things can help husbands make their pregnant wives more content during this period. If you have any comments or further suggestions, please feel free to share!

An edited version of this article was included in Suzanne Hadley Gosselin’s parenting book Expectant Parents: Preparing Together for the Journey of Parenthood.

 



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Jennifer Bly
Author of My Kitchen, My Classroom: An Introduction to Homeschool and creator of The Deliberate Mom. Jennifer writes about parenting, homeschooling, her faith, and life with her husband and two girls. Jennifer has a Bachelor of Applied Human Service Administration Degree with a specialization in Early Learning in Child Care.

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