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I do not deserve love because I am unlovable.

I can’t answer how such an awful thought could dominate my existence but it did and it nearly ruined my life. Everything I have and love today balances precariously on a brave step I took almost seven years ago… I left my ex-husband.

My ex-husband was a good man. He was a gentle man. This in itself should not be the basis of marriage but these two characteristics and the fact that he actually loved me was enough for me to say yes to his proposal. When I reflect on the past I see a woman full of insecurities, full of self-loathing, and devoid of any emotional maturity.

I was twenty-four when I married my ex-husband. We were married for five and a half long years.

Shortly after we married, I started attending college. Suddenly my world grew. I met new people, I had new experiences, I expanded my horizons, I heightened my ambitions but most importantly, I fell in love with me. It may sound weird but I truly believe that loving yourself is the key ingredient to finding true love. When I looked in the mirror I finally saw me, rather than the person I would never be. I saw Jennifer, I saw her quirks, I saw her intelligence, I saw her passion and I saw her value.

It’s amazing how when your perspective about yourself changes your view of others as well. I began to see that my ex-husband was not an ideal mate. He did not challenge me. He did not inspire me. All he could do was love me and suddenly that was not enough. I wanted true love. So I took a brave step and left my ex-husband.

From that moment on, my life exploded with amazing opportunities, remarkable experiences and… love. True love. I found the love of my life. A friendship of seven years evolved into a love I couldn’t have possibly imagined. I found THE one… my soul mate.

Want to find true love? You need to do this first.

My amazing husband. I wouldn’t have found him if I didn’t find me first.

I have been happily married to my husband for four years. He is good, kind, gentle, sensitive, intelligent, industrious, passionate, loving, giving, creative, inspiring, funny, and supportive.

So as I write this posting, less than a week away from Valentine’s Day, I want to share with you my own personal words of wisdom and encouragement:

You are perfect because only you can be the best you. Love yourself and everything else will fall into place.

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I am lovable and I deserve love. I’m glad I came to that conclusion so many years ago, because without this epiphany, I wouldn’t be where I am right now. Now stop reading this posting and go find love in yourself!



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Jennifer Bly
Author of My Kitchen, My Classroom: An Introduction to Homeschool and creator of The Deliberate Mom. Jennifer writes about parenting, homeschooling, her faith, and life with her husband and two girls. Jennifer has a Bachelor of Applied Human Service Administration Degree with a specialization in Early Learning in Child Care.



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