Have you ever prayed, “God, I trust You,” only to find yourself trying to fix everything on your own five minutes later?
I have.
I love plans. I love organization. I love knowing what’s coming next. Give me a checklist, a calendar, and a colour-coded schedule, and I’m one happy girl.
The problem is that following God often requires us to loosen our grip on our own plans and trust His instead. And if you’re anything like me, that’s easier said than done.
How do we truly give God control? How do we stop striving and start trusting?
If you’re asking those questions, you’re not alone.
Are you a Type-A personality?
I definitely am.
It’s both a gift and a challenge.
Wikipedia describes a Type-A personality as someone who is ambitious, highly organized, proactive, impatient, and driven to achieve. They often take on more than they should, dislike delays, and want to stay in control of every detail.
As I read that description, I couldn’t help but laugh because it fits me almost perfectly.
Many of those qualities are wonderful. They help us accomplish goals, serve others well, and stay organized. But they can also make it incredibly difficult to surrender control to God. We can become so focused on making our own plans work that we forget to trust the One who already knows the outcome.
Thankfully, God knows us completely. He understands both our strengths and our struggles, and He lovingly invites us to trust Him instead of relying solely on ourselves.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 (ESV)
So, how do we give God control? Here are a few practical ways that have helped me loosen my grip and learn to trust Him more each day.
Want to give God control? Here are some tips on how to let go of control and truly hand your life over to God! #faith Share on X
HOW DO WE GIVE GOD CONTROL?
It seems like a silly question, doesn’t it? Because when it comes down to it, God IS in control of everything. BUT we often try to assert our own control and defy or disobey Him. Here are some ways to relinquish that control and enrich your relationship with God.
TALK TO HIM.
God wants to spend time with you. Spend time talking to Him. Talk openly and freely about everything. Let Him know that you’re struggling to let go of control, and invite Him to help you.
We’re never bothering God when we come to Him honestly. In fact, He invites us to bring every worry to Him.
“Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7 (ESV)
Sometimes we think we need polished prayers, but God already knows what’s in our hearts. Tell Him exactly what you’re afraid of losing control over.
You might pray:
“Lord, I’m trying to control this situation because I’m afraid. Help me trust You instead of my own plans.”
Honest prayers like that are often where surrender begins.
READ THE BIBLE.
When you read scripture, you get to know God. It only makes sense that the more you know someone, the more you learn their character. It’s easier to trust God when we know Him!
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Psalm 119:105 (ESV)
RELEASE CONTROL ONE DECISION AT A TIME.
Sometimes we think surrender has to happen all at once. But often God teaches us trust one small decision at a time.
Maybe today it’s releasing your finances.
Maybe it’s your health.
Maybe it’s your children.
Maybe it’s a relationship.
You don’t have to surrender your entire future in one moment. Start by placing today’s worries into God’s hands, then do it again tomorrow.
LISTEN TO HIM.
The Lord speaks to us. However, it’s important that we listen to what he has to say. God has been giving me some REALLY loud messages lately. Here is one such example of Him speaking so clearly to me about the topic of control…
I went to the bookstore with a previously used gift card. I was certain the balance remaining on the card was somewhere around $17. There I stood in the Christian section of the store. I recently read Not a Fan by Kyle Idleman and was working on the Beth Moore prayer devotional Whispers of Hope, but I wanted another book that would encourage growth in my Christian walk.
So I stood there with two books in my hands. I read both of the book jackets and felt torn as to which one to choose. I debated and deliberated. Then I felt a sudden strong urge to buy one.
I went to the till to purchase the book. The cashier rang it through… $17.31.
Then she scanned my gift card.
I literally saw her jaw drop.
The amount on the gift card was EXACTLY $17.31. She was floored and said she had never seen that happen before… EVER!
In that moment, I knew I had selected the right book. God wanted me to read that book, and He was making it clear to me that I had made the right choice.
As it turned out, the book God led me to was Let. It. Go. by Karen Ehman. The subtitle is How to Stop Running the Show and Start Walking in Faith, and I remember smiling because it was exactly the message I needed. If surrendering control is something you struggle with too, I think you’ll find it both encouraging and challenging.
Remember how a couple months ago I declared that I’m All In with God? I’m still struggling with handing everything over to Him. There are still bits and pieces that I want to control.
One of the first things Karen has readers do is take a quiz about control. I was so unhappy with my results that I wanted to retake the test! That alone told me I needed to read this book!
Looking back, I realize the amount on the gift card wasn’t what strengthened my faith most. It was seeing that God cared enough to encourage me in a moment when I was wrestling with surrender. He didn’t have to do that. But He lovingly reminded me that He sees me.
THANK HIM.
The Lord is so good. Even if you struggle with control, approach God with a thankful heart.
Take time to thank Him for all He has done in your life.
Gratitude changes our perspective. Instead of focusing on what we can’t control, it reminds us of all the ways God has already been faithful.
I often find that when I’m anxious, I become fixated on everything that could go wrong. But when I intentionally thank God, even for ordinary blessings like a warm cup of coffee, a conversation with a friend, or the beauty outside my window, my heart begins to soften. My circumstances may not change immediately, but my trust grows.
God’s word reminds us:
“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (ESV)
The more we remember God’s faithfulness, the easier it becomes to trust Him with what lies ahead. Even the little things can become reminders of His goodness.
Thank Him for the rainy day because it gives you an opportunity to curl up with a good book instead of working in the garden. Thank Him for the unexpected phone call from a friend, the meal on your table, or the strength He gives you to face another day. As your gratitude grows, you’ll often find that your grip on control begins to loosen.
SURRENDER IS A DAILY CHOICE.
Surrender is a daily choice. Some days you’ll find it easy to place everything into God’s hands. Other days you’ll catch yourself gripping tightly to worries and trying to solve everything yourself.
Don’t be discouraged. Every time you choose to pray instead of panic, read Scripture instead of relying on your own understanding, listen for God’s leading, or thank Him before you see the outcome, you’re taking another step toward trusting Him.
God isn’t asking you to have it all figured out. He invites you to trust Him, one day and one decision at a time. As you continue to surrender your plans, your fears, and your desire for control, you’ll discover the peace that comes from resting in the hands of a faithful God.
I’d love to hear from you. What area of your life is hardest to surrender to God right now? Share in the comments. I’ll be praying for everyone who responds.
Unless otherwise indicated, scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
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What a wonderful post! We are Tao cultivators in our family and letting go is definitely at the center of our practice. Often times, trying to control things is holding on to things that we “believe” we can control when in fact, they could slip from our fingers at any moment. I had to learn that very quickly when I became a mother. I had So MANY plans… things we would do, things we would say, feel… and so full-of-myself, thinking that my child would turn out a certain way! Yeah… I quickly learned that being a parent meant letting go! yesterday is gone, tomorrow hasn’t happened, only today exists. :-) Thank you for that inspirational post…
On a querky note : I saw GST on your receipt! Which part of Canada are you in? I’m in Quebec City. :-)
Thank you for your thoughtful comment Yanic. I find I tend to try to control that what I’m afraid most of losing. Fortunately the Lord is showing me ways to learn how to trust more.
I’m in Alberta! Always nice to connect with a fellow Canadian!
Wishing you a lovely day.
This is beautiful testimony of letting Go.i feel it,this season has been about letting go. Alot of complicated situation is happening to me that I was just like God is in control.though my mom is overly worried.i just told her GOD is in control.we control alot that we don’t see God control working in our life’s.
Thing is I applied for job last year November 2021 I only got response in mid Jan 2022 and I was invited for interview on 20th Jan 2022.i only received feedback recently on 9feb 2022 of which the job application is in different location which requires me to relocate at the same time I am studying full-time at different location, though the university has same course I been trying to find transfer to change campus I haven’t gotten response yet…now my mom is worried sick n she worries me too
Wow my name is Jennifer too. And God directed me to this website when I read. When I red give God control and seen Jennifer that had great meaning for me too Jennifer. I felt it . Thank you God
Sorry for misspelling
I’m delighted that this article helped. God bless you.
Have learnt more about giving God the control.
A good presentation 👏
So glad this helped.
Wow! I just read that and only one year fell out my eye that’s because it resonated so much with my spirit!🙏🏽 Thank You!
I struggle with everyday things I can’t control I pray to God for the guidance to let go I feel the need to help others to put them before myself searching for the right at the end of the tunnel and I see is darkness and pain the more questions that I asked the more questions appear and the more confused that I get I’m ready willing and able to start this next journey to start this next journey with God beside me
Thank God for you Sister 🙏 to share this I have struggled, and struggled in letting go and letting God… I need to read this again & again 😫 I am willing to give it all up….God Loved this loss creature even more now than I will ever know or comprehend… keep sharing God bless 🙌 🙏 ✨️ love Sheron ❤️
I am so glad this helped you Sheron. God bless you too!
Thanks so much.I need to read this message today
You’re welcome. I’m glad it spoke to you.
Wow, that’s amazing! It was meant to be Jennifer. I love the Wiki definition; it fits me pretty well also, eek!
I like that the book starts with a test. I may have to look into this one. Although my daily Bible reading isn’t going so well so I’m not sure I’ll be able to fit another book into my life right now. :(
Have a lovely Wednesday!
xoxo
It was such a cool and affirming moment. God is constantly amazing me with His hand in my life. truly enchanting.
Wishing you a lovely day as well.
xoxo
Thank for sharing ,I stumbled upon this, believe it or not I just said out loud Prov3:5 😅I know God is so very real however I still struggle with totally relying on FATHER GOD especially when it comes to my adult children,however I’m doing much better ‘1Day AT A TIME’ ‘GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME’..Peace &Blessings To You.💕🙏🏽
I’m delighted that you encountered this article at an ideal time. God’s timing IS perfect. God bless you!!
Thank you for this post! God is always moving and speaking and I heard Him loud and clear through this post. I will be purchasing the book you read!
I’m delighted to hear that this post helped you Andrea. It’s a great book – I’m sure you’ll find it helpful.
might be a good book study. keep us posted on what you think!
I am loving this book Hannah! It’s witty yet really ministers to the “control freak” in me. She really highlights scripture and how yearning for control is actually in women’s nature. Such a good read!
What a cool story! These types of things are always happening to you- I love that you’re getting the messages..though they aren’t so subtle! Dang. How incredible is it that you’re exactly where you need to be right now? That’s some awesome affirmation right there.
It was definitely affirming. I love how as I seek God, He reveals more of himself in these really awesome and amazing ways!
Just as you were told by God to get that book I was meant to read your post. This is an area I’m working diligently on but needed this reminder. Thank you. Beautifully written and so needed.
Thank you for sharing Sonya! I’m delighted to hear this article was timely for you! I love how God does that!
Made me laugh when you said you took the test in the first chapter and were unhappy with the results and wanted to re-take it. Sounds like something I would have done! Hope the book is everything you want it to be. xoxo
Thanks Pam! I’m really loving the book. I’ll be done it in no time! I’m looking forward to the changes it should bring to the way I handle the everyday and especially with my walk with God.
Thanks for visiting!
xoxo
Hi Jennifer! Well, if that isn’t a ‘God thing’ then I don’t know what is! Love the photo of the receipt too, priceless :)
It’s such a gift to find a book ( or person or prayer) that meets you right where you are at that moment. You feel so specially blessed to have found it, and you know you are not alone. Such blessings.
You have a new blog look? Well, if I finally noticed, I’m sorry to mention it now! I’m a little slow.
Hope your walk is going well my friend,
Ceil
Yes it is definitely a ‘God-thing’ isn’t it! He is so good with the confirmations He gives me and the way He touches my life. I feel blessed.
New blog look? Are you referring to the snippets of posts on the Home page rather than full posts on the home page. That’s pretty new. Otherwise I’ve been sporting this ‘look’ since the new year ;)
Wishing you a blessed day Ceil!
I also battle with control! It runs me ragged!! I absolutely fall apart. I am working on this and praying constantly. I know God is using this time in our lives to work in that area too! It is a difficult journey but one worth taking!
It’s a relief to hear other Christian women having similar struggles. Let’s pray for each other that we can overcome the grips of control.
Oh Jennifer….you just described ME! I needed to read this post. I love your insight and wisdom! Thank for being honest and for sharing what the Lord has been telling you. I am definitely going to look into reading this book! Have a wonderful evening!
I’m glad this posting spoke to you Kelli. It seems by sharing this, I am seeing that many of us Christian women struggle in the area of control. Let’s lift each other up in prayer to overcome this challenge.
Wishing you a lovely day.
As a fellow Type-A individual, I hear you loud and clear! I have “Let. It. Go” on my bookshelf, too, so maybe I can read along. (Confession, I cannot look this title without singing the soundtrack from Frozen. My children have ruined me.)
Loved the receipt! To the Canadian penny, nonetheless!
Correction: “look AT this title.”
Add this to the definition: Type-A people also hate typos.
You… a Type-A individual as well?! I would have never guessed *winks*. We seriously have so much in common. Right down to the correcting of our own typos when we leave blog comments.
I haven’t seen Frozen yet. I think I must check it out sometime soon.
Ha! That IS crazy! Enjoy your reading!
Sanz, seriously, these things happen to me all the time! I think it’s because I frequently pray to God and tell Him to be direct with me… no subtleties, be to the point! He is… and I am thankful for it.
Wow Jen u are such a perfectionist.
i am inclined to help others, but i am never perfect in what i do.
I am trying to get there.
xoxo
z
I unfortunately don’t like being a perfectionist. Perfection is impossible. I’m praying that I will be released of this need to control. My life would be so much more peaceful.
Thanks for stopping by Z.
xoxo
great wisdom in this post!!!
Yikes Jennifer! What a great story but that definition scares me.. hits too close to home. I was reading it and said to myself…Hmm sounds a little like myself. I am striving every day to relinquish total control to God and trust Him in everything not just some things. Thank you for sharing such an insightful post! I really enjoyed and was blessed by it:)
I’m so glad this post blessed you and spoke to you Horace. It’s hard to hand everything over to God, but that’s what He asks us to do. So we do and practice it as much as possible.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on letting go of control.
Much needed reminder for me today – thank you! Also, thank you for the book recommendation. Added it to my “must read” list.
I delighted that you encountered this at a time you needed it most Jessi!
Jennifer, I so needed this blog post today! I, too, struggle with the need for control and am a classic Type-A personality with a bundle of anxiety to top! However, I am also trying to let go and trust God more with certain areas in my life where I struggle with letting go. These are great suggestions on letting go. I would love to read the book Let It Go by Karen Ehman!
I’m so delighted that this article resonated with you and was timely.
I really enjoyed “Let It Go!” – it was a fabulous book.
thanks Jen for sharing on this i a so encourage because i wanna give God my everything to him
I’m delighted this encouraged you. Prayers and blessings to you as you release everything to Him.
I really enjoyed reading this blog. I have always had a hard time letting go and letting God take over control. I am a mom of two adult kids my son is 23 and my daughter is 22. They both have a rare genetic I disorder RP. I know God is our healer. He has show me the power of his healing in myself. God is so good. But I continue to hold onto control for the salvation of my kids.They are not searching for God and if anything my daughter wants to hear nothing about him. And that really hurts because I really want to see them both come to Christ. Friends of mine came over to visit and ended up sharing the gospel with both my kids my son ended up getting baptized. But I wasn’t feeling joy because that time of baptism seemed more forced and felt wrong. And my son back it from that he made the choice to be baptized but to walk out in faith he was not ready for. He didn’t know God he heard the gospel. So now I have to let God finish the work that was started in here and I’ll try to work it out myself because only God can work out all the details of our salvation. I was getting dreams and visions and I believed that one of my kids was getting baptized and my son did but in my own stubbornness to try to think that I could help him further along wasn’t working. God gave me revelation that I cannot go before him he does the work and he will finish it. I really enjoyed this post thank you so much. God knows every little detail . If there’s one thing he keeps telling me that I need to rest in him I need to trust in him. I am also a Canadian to I live in Ontario😊
Thank you so much for sharing. The Lord loves your children far more than you ever could. He began a work in them… now you need to wait in faith to see that work completed. Joining hands with you in prayer Hilda – God bless you and your family.
I looked up ” How to let God have control,” and came across your blog. I read it and it’s very helpful. The one thing you say about the receipt being $17.31 is funny because my moment was when I get to the end of the blog and it says my name. ” Jennifer!” Just laughing at that. Wow! God please help me and give me rest. I’m tired of trying to juggle this.
That is so very cool. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Jennifer,
Just have to share with you my thoughts about letting God in control!
You see, we just finished our last batch of small group study about “Navigating Your Finances God’s Way” on Sunday and next Sunday will be graduation day.
The first thing we learned was letting God in control of our life. This is a very subject for Christians as well as non Christians. This small group study actually started from US. 🙏
Hello, I so much understand about your journey and the darkness. It’s so hard when you love god. I truly love people and often get hurt by others. Letting go is hard, but really when the fight is to hard. You got trust God and let him fight for you. I know that things do get better. So many times it’s been hard in my life. God gets us through this. I felt doomed I never felt so unloved and deserted. But truth is god never left he was with me the whole time. I believe people deserve to be forgiven. Satan and people drove me crazy. I know good smells when I could smell that it was god. I almost died it was horrible but I got a chance to really understand why it was worth it, because I love my family, friends and god so very much. God is so special and beautiful. He is that. I wish sometimes life would have been different, but I gotta let it go and give to him. I pray anyone who is being attacked for god’s grace and devine healing. To get satan out of our lives.
Thank you for sharing Melissa. God bless you.