Do you have times when your husband is out of town and you’re alone with the kids? Do you get overwhelmed by all that needs to be done? A few hours after he’s gone, do you wonder how you’ll ever survive?
I’m here to tell you that being on your own can be doable… even enjoyable!
With my husband’s new job he’s out of town for a few nights twice month. At first I thought I was going to go crazy! How single moms and military wives do this all the time is beyond me… kudos to you ladies!
After doing this routine for six months, I feel I have a grasp on what to do during these periods that my husband is away. Here are 10 tips to keep sane while your husband is away.Check out these 10 Sanity Savers While The Husband is Away #parenting #tips Click To Tweet
Plan your meals
I always plan my meals but when my husband is away, I try to plan really simple, easy to prepare suppers. If you have time, make a few “freezer meals” ahead of time. Making supper while you’re solo parenting can be overwhelming, so make it as easy as possible for yourself.
Do the grocery shopping before he leaves
Stock your fridge and cupboards as much as possible prior to your husband’s departure. Make sure you even have a supply of those necessities that you should require if someone gets sick (i.e. ginger ale, children’s fever medication, sports drinks, etc.). Running errands with children is challenging enough as is, you’ll want to keep such outings to a minimum.
Get out of the house
This is especially important if you’re a stay-at-home mom. You don’t want to be cooped up all day, every day, and every night with your children. Take them to your community park, visit your local library, or take them out for ice cream. The change of scenery will do all of you good.
Make some plans
Prior to my husband’s business trips, I try to plan some special activities for my girls. As I mentioned previously, it’s important to get out of the house. It’s always nice for you and your children to look forward to a play date with friends, a trip to the zoo, a movie night, or a sleepover at a grandparent’s house.
Planning craft activities is also a good idea. If the weather isn’t cooperative, you’ll be thankful you had the foresight to gather some supplies for a few art activities!
Make a list of who you can call on for help. Even if it’s having Grandma watch the kids while you go out for coffee and pick up some groceries… you need a break! Let these individuals know ahead of time that you will be on your own and that you may call on them if you need assistance.
Enlist the help of older siblings
Pull out your loose change and pay them for their efforts if you have to! Older children can help with preparing dinner, cleaning, and can help occupy younger children. Prepare them for the prospect that you will be relying on them for help and put them to work!
Have some special toys in reserve
I know I’ve shared before how I have bins of toys for desperate occasions. These toys definitely come into the play rotation when my husband is out of town.
Drop the cleaning obsession
Even if you absolutely LOVE a clean house, this is not the time to obsess over it being spotless. Let go of some of your regular chores and conserve the energy for dealing with your children.
Take care of yourself
It may feel like there’s no time to take care of yourself but this is critical. When the children are sleeping, do some Yoga, take a hot bath, sip some tea, and/or read a book. If you need some self-care ideas, you might want to check out the suggestions on this post, How to Make Time for Yourself (Even When it Feels Like You Have No Time).
Regardless, do something that makes you feel happy.
Do what you love to do
Make a list of things you want to do while your hubby is away. Is there a romantic comedy that he refuses to watch? Pop some corn and watch it without him! Dedicate time to a craft. Do some gardening. Look at this time as a blessing and when the children are not underfoot, do what you love to do.
You don’t have to dread the time that your husband is away. With some intentional planning (and a little bit of grace), your time alone with the kids can be enjoyable. You may even come to look forward to it!