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Choose Love

Something has happened to me lately.

In the shadow of my grandma’s death, something has stirred in my soul. It started as the faintest whisper but as every day passes, the voice gets louder.

Do something. Do anything to let the people in your life know how much you love them.

The minutes are dripping like water through a sieve. Time is escaping me. I feel unable to keep up with these extraordinary feelings, overwhelming thoughts, and the desire to let every person know that they are loved… that I love them.
Life is full of choices. You can't go wrong if you choose love. - The Deliberate Mom
Usually when I sit down in front of my computer, the words that I can’t speak, flow with ease out of my fingertips but I’m at a loss to describe this feeling, this urgency… to let others know that they are loved.

The thing is, I don’t want to just tell them, I want to show them.

I am desperate to show my love. I feel like I’m a balloon being blown up and the pressure inside of me is so intense, so strong, I’m afraid of bursting. This love needs to find its way out. It needs to travel across oceans, it needs to embrace the hurt, it needs to cross economic barriers, and fall upon those who need it. This indescribable love….
Life is full of choices. You can't go wrong if you choose love. - The Deliberate Mom
My grandma loved. She really, truly, loved. She was a beautiful example of Jesus’ two commandments to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind [and to] love your neighbour as yourself.” (Matthew 22: 37-40)

Perhaps this desire in me is because I wish to carry on my grandma’s legacy. Perhaps this is all part of the grieving process. Even if it’s part of the grieving process, I don’t want to lose this desire to just shower my love on others.

Maybe you understand? Maybe you’ve felt this at some point in time?

Every moment is precious.

It may sound cliche but we’ve got this opportunity to love and be loved. To give, to create, and to inspire. To cherish, to delight, and to be overwhelmed by the glory and grandeur of life.

Life is full of choices. You can’t go wrong if you choose love.

I’m going to live my life the Matthew 22: 37-40 way.

I’ve wasted so much time not loving enough and not giving enough. I want to give all of me, to everyone I encounter, and not just friends and colleagues. I want to love everyone with no exceptions.

Whether you’re single or married; male or female; employed or unemployed; rich or poor; there is always love. Love can never be lost or wasted. Love is yours to receive and yours to give.

Will you join me? Will you choose love above all else? Will you put aside anger, fear of rejection, apathy, and resentment? Will you follow those two key commandments and commit your life to love?

When you walk away from the words on this screen, how will you choose love?

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Jennifer Bly
Jennifer Bly
Author of My Kitchen, My Classroom: An Introduction to Homeschool, creator of The Deliberate Mom, Deliberate Homeschooling and regular contributor to The Huffington Post. Jennifer writes about parenting, her faith, and life with her husband and two girls. Jennifer has a Bachelor of Applied Human Service Administration Degree with a specialization in Early Learning in Child Care.

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50 thoughts on “Choose Love

  • Tiffany {A Touch of Grace}

    Oh Jennifer. You’ve brought tears to my eyes. What an amazing way to feel. Choosing love above all else is how we all should live our lives. Nothing else matters if we don’t love those that mean the most to us above all else. You are exactly right. You can’t go wrong if you choose love.

  • Ceil

    Hi Jennifer! If ever there was a woman on fire, it is you. God is just lighting you up with so much love, you can’t contain it anymore. So out it goes into your blog community and family too. What an honor to your Grandmother too. Do you have any idea how proud she is of you right now??
    You go girl! Go light up your world, just like you are lighting ours here.

    • Jennifer - The Deliberate Mom

      Thank you Ceil… you made me misty-eyed my friend.

      I pray that this love will spread to all ends of the earth by any means God moves it. I pray that my love (which I feel so inadequate in describing) gives a small glimpse of the love that our Lord has to offer. His love is pure… I pray everyone can see and feel it.

      Wishing you a blessed day my friend.

  • Caroline

    Yes, this is awesome – when my nephew passed away last month, my SIL post was called Love wins! She is now encouraging us to choose love in all circumstances. This ties in exactly with that. Thanks for the encouragement!

    • Jennifer - The Deliberate Mom

      Oh my goodness Caroline… that is what keeps going through my head… choose love, choose love. In all circumstances choose love. There are no regrets if you choose love. There is always more love if you choose love.

      I would love to read that post, can you forward it to me?

      Blessings to you my friend. I’m so glad I could encourage you… as you have encouraged and blessed me in so many ways.

  • Tamara Camera

    In honor of your grandmother, I’m going to get off this computer and go outside to give my family the biggest hugs ever. They’ll be surprised because I was escaping inside while they were gardening because I needed alone time.
    I don’t think I do anymore.

  • Lisa Witherspoon

    I am currently reading book with my women’s Bible Study groups called Love Does by Bob Goff. Have you read it?? If not, you should. It is about how love is an action, not just a feeling. It really goes along with how you are feeling and what you have shard int his post!

  • Jessica Dimas

    Love this post Jennifer, it’s so inspiring and uplifting. I don’t know you or your grandmother personally, but I just have a feeling from the way you’ve communicated with me thru the blogisphere that you will definitely carry on her loving legacy. You seem to be very loving by nature. And in honor of your grandmother, I’m going to go give some love right now to Piggie, shower him with hugs and kisses before he’s off to bed :) Thank you for such a lovely reminder of what matters in life.

    • Jennifer - The Deliberate Mom

      Thank you for your kind words Jessica. I hope that I do carry on her legacy. If anything, I wrote this post to remind myself to choose love in everything… in every situation, in every circumstance, with every person. I hope that it encourages others to do so as well. Thank you for choosing love Jessica.

    • Jennifer - The Deliberate Mom

      I’m so glad you enjoyed this Jennifer. I’m hearing echoes of love all around me. It’s beautiful and I think we’re coming together in this amazing way for a reason and a greater purpose as willed by God.

      Thank you for choosing love. Wishing you a lovely day.

  • Growing Up Madison

    Oh how I love this post Jennifer. There is no greater gift than love, well true love. I remember when I lost my dad a year and a half ago, I thought that it would have been impossible to love after that because he showed me unconditional love. Then I realized that if I show love (unconditionally) not only would I feel at peace but so would others. Love is such an amazing thing and it feels good to be loved and to show love, not just say it.

    • Jennifer - The Deliberate Mom

      I’m so glad you enjoyed this post Amanda. I find it amazing that out of loss, we could feel such love… but then again, it was through the death of our Saviour that we accepted, that were given the gift to love in this manner. Such a powerful feeling and an amazing action… to pour our love out for one another. This is the way I wish to live… fully and completely loving.

  • familyfaithfoodfabric

    Isn’t the light brighter, the sounds louder, the air fresher when you come to the conclusion that, as the Beatles so eloquently put it, all you need is love? My family and I have been cultivating the Tao for years now and many of Buddha’s words are similar to those of God in Christian faith : Love all with a mother’s heart, I am them and they are me, loving requires no effort because it comes naturally from our Buddha Heart. Love freely and love greatly and people will know! :-) Feeling blessed after reading this. Thank you for sharing.

  • Karen King

    This is precious Jennifer. I think you are probably right about the onset of these feelings. After the loss of our pre-born son, God poured His love on me in a way that I had never known before. It was hard to describe – and still is – but, because I was loved so tenderly, so amazingly, I was overflowing with gratitude that compelled me to pour it out on others. I remember that time with sweet joy. I also remember, as days passed into weeks and I eased back into life, that the overwhelming ease to pour love out didn’t come quite as easily. I began to wonder what I had done wrong – how I had lost that sweet time of being so carried by Grace. I believe now it was part of the healing process. God carried me when I couldn’t “walk” alone, and although He has never left or forsaken me, He did put me back on wobbly legs to walk with hesitating steps again. Of course, I fell – hard – quite a few times. But, He always picked me up again and helped me take another step.
    Thank you so much for sharing. It blessed my heart – as it seems it has done for many others too. Thank you for sparking a flame of love. Have a beautiful day!

  • The Mrs.

    It is so true that we take our moments (and families and friends…) for granted! It is often when something shifts our perspective that we are able to see the importance of what you’ve written! I am certain those around you feel loved!

  • Kristy Mauna

    This was such a beautiful post! I am such a huge believer in the power of love.. I used to never show the people in my life how much I truly cared about them until it was too late, so I started to change and live as if today is my only chance to remind them of my love (as cliche as that sounds). It has helped me feel better and most importantly helped my relationships stay strong! Wishing you the best of luck! xxo

  • Simply Topaz

    Well, I just love you for writing something SO beautiful. We never know when will be the last time we see someone, or how desperately someone may need to hear or feel that love. We just never know.

    I hate sometimes how we lose that urgency when things feel normal. We forget how important this is. Every. Single. Day.

    Thank you for this beautiful reminder…to love…deeply…and profoundly.

    What a wonderful way to write on the wall of life.

    ~Topaz xo

  • Remy Cruz

    Lovely post Jenn! I still have my grandmother alive she is 84 and she is not my grandmother SHE IS MY MOTHER she raise me and I can imagine your feelings. I will send you lots of hugs and best wishes my dear friend. xoxo

  • MumsMusingMind

    This is a beautifully written post and a wonderful dedication to your grandmother. When someone touches our lives with that kind of depth they truly live on through us and the ways we chose to remember them by living by their examples. Thank you for reminding us how important love is in our lives and encouraging us to live with love in our hearts.

  • Laura - Essaie Blog

    I ‘feel’ you so strongly on this one; I felt (feel!) this after my sister’s death…the things that are really meaningful and important become suddenly SO clear. Like LOVING! Like lifting. Like serving.
    Thanks for this, Jennifer. You’re the best.

  • Caroline

    I remember this post! I remember how much I loved it (and still do) because after my nephew passed away, my SIL’s motto was Love Wins – it’s still something we often say!!!! Love trumps all, even the pain without him here